I have been interviewed by a few pepople now and been in many tv programmes about how i mange my life and sex life now I am in the chair. Well here are just two of the interveiws that I was able to get a hold of and when and were they were published.

Kiwi has been a surfer, a beachbum, a hitchhiker and a biker. He looks a bit rock ’n’ roll; long hair, denim, some interesting tattoos and piercings. He’s good looking enough to front a band and is a sex maniac-in the nicest possible way.

This may surprise some people, as he’s in a wheelchair; the result of a biking accident that has left him with no feeling beneath his nipples. The statistics are not good for people suffering this sort of trauma. Four out of five paraplegics commit suicide in the first year, some veg out in front of the television – which is their right, of course. And some become extremely active, which is what Kiwi has done.

He has had to figure out a new way to do everything. In the process he has sent his brain into overdrive- the speed of his conversation and thought processes can be dazzling- and he has found more ways of having sex than would ever had occur to your average guy. He has a lot of partners, goes to a lot of clubs and throws wild parties.

"It’s difficult but it’s fun. There doesn’t seem to be a middle. You’re either down or up. It’s like that in the disabled community. People either sit on the couch or they’re out there being mad bastards like me!"

The first night I met Kiwi he persuaded one of the women present to squirt her breast milk all over him. He was driving us through Piccadilly Circus in his Merc, which has got conveniently has tinted windows. Anything can happen inside this vehicle and frequently does.

His house is kitted out for action- there’s a fully working dungeon and a specially adapted bathroom for other things. He’s not particularly into SM, he just happens to have a dungeon so that party perves will come and play there. "I have a dungeon because I know it will draw naked bodies. That’s what I get a big buzz from. I like to run my hands over flesh."

A woman I know spent a few blissful evenings with him and was very complimentary about his deft, dexterous hands. Conventional intercourse is also possible by injecting Caverject powder. This produces an erection lasting about an hour. "I can use injections to get a hard-on. I can’t feel anything but my body knows something is happening. I have small spasms. Next thing I know I’m like a human vibrator. And these vibrations go up to where I can feel it. Parts of me go into overdrive and I blank out with ecstasy.

"these vibrations go up to were I can feel it. Parts of me go into overdrive and I blank out with ecstasy."

Sometimes women have to bite my nipples to bring me back. The blackouts can last for ten to fifteen seconds. The other person worries sometimes. I forget about breathing. Touch wood I won’t keel over. But as soon as I’m brought back I’m jumping around. I’ve even head-butted people!"

Oral sex is a particular favourite. "Only two ladies have managed to suck my knob long and hard enough to get semen out of it. I had a blister afterwards but it was great. I loved it! I can’t pass semen because the muscles can’t control it. Blokes have to pass semen roughly once a month. Mine comes out when I piss.

If I really wanted an orgasm I could go to the hospital and they have a twelve thousand-pound vibrator in there. They shove it up your arse and `whap! ` I could hit that wall. But they don’t lend that out, unfortunately "

Assistance is sometimes necessary with a partner as challenged as he is. "I had sex with another lady in a chair in America. We had to have another person in the room to say whether my dick was in her cunt, we couldn’t feel it!"

Most of the time he can fend for himself and, like other people on the fetish scene, he has discovered that orgasms aren’t the beginning and the end of sexual activity. Play can take many forms and usually lasts considerably longer than sexual intercourse tends to.

I remember leaving a wild night at the Fringe at 7.15am. Kiwi’s reaction? "You were a bit boring, mate. We went on all day. Look at these photos." And there they were. Kiwi and a bevy of beauties, some of them professional porn actresses.

" My best friends are on the fetish scene because it’s so open and honest. If you don’t like someone, you just tell them to stop. Normal night-clubs are more aggressive. They use you. They just want to show off. I’m very happy in the fetish scene. I can say what I like." And he does. It’s probably fair to say that Kiwi is unlikely to contribute to The Guardian’s women’s page in the near future. He is not politically correct.

"Only two ladies have managed to suck my knob long and hard enough to get semen out of it. I had a blister afterwards but it was great."

But he is extremely sensitive to what is going on in inside other people’s heads and is prepared to talk through any problem. When you take into consideration Kiwi’s considerable skill with his hands and tongue, you can see why he has no shortage of female partners.

"Before the accident it was all down there. Now I have communication. You can have sex with someone just by talking. I’ve started my life all over again. I’ve had to relearn everything. I’ve had to learn how to communicate. Now I get on much better with people because I have to ask. I like to do things for other people, get involved. Organise things. Maybe that’s my Libra nature coming out. I can get most people to lose their inhibitions. I don’t force people to do things- I just make suggestions."

One of these suggestions is most likely to have something to do with a females breasts. Kiwi is most definitely a tit man. "If they’re sat on me they’d better grab my nipples because I’ll be grabbing theirs. If I get a nipple in my mouth I’m in heaven. It’s handy being in a chair. The minute they're sat on my lap they're mine."

Before the accident he wasn’t that bothered about his own nipples, now he has a piercing and likes a lot of play there. " I couldn’t handle people going near my nipples, now I have to have it. I have my tongue pierced for the other person, hopefully it stimulates the clitoris. Mentally my attitude has changed totally. I used to be selfish- now I put a lot of effort into making the person happy."

He certainly puts a lot of effort into his parties. " I have a play room, some people call it a dungeon. It’s got a cross, a love swing. I have a four poster bed with loads of lights everywhere. My bathroom is fully open plan so it can be used for water sports. It’s a social thing, a friendly event. You treat it as your own place. You bend, you mend, you break something, you pay for it. I learnt that from the biking community.

They’re a bit like swingers’ parties. They don’t need venues with loud music. They hold a party where you can play if you wish. The only thing I require is that people come dressed for fetish, they are expecting sex. I’ve had a party with 28 people. There might be six people involved in that group. Generally people get involved in little groups.

The only rules; come in fetish clothes and ready to play; No means no; Don’t get drunk or off your head." He is also a regular at a number of clubs- Torture Garden, Club Rub, The Fringe- Although he goes to these places to play, not to pose in designer perv gear.

" I have found that in general all the clubs that I’ve been to have noted that we in chairs are people as well. I’ve made so many friends, played with the majority of them and still do. I can’t stop feeling very lucky to be a part of the fetish scene. In the clubs I don’t really get to move around a lot so you will generally find me positioned in a spot that gives the best observation point viewing the sea of bodies, wiggling, strutting and thrusting.

If I haven’t got a tasty little morsel sitting on my lap (one of those benefits of being in a chair, it’s some where for someone to sit) I’m watching the fun and pleasures that others are giving to each other. Feel free to approach me and say hello, just don’t stop me in mid flow when I’m sucking on a juicy pert nipple!"

" If they’re sat on me they’d better grab my nipples because I’ll be grabbing theirs. If I get a nipple in my mouth I’m in heaven."

One of his website articles describes the thrill of being carried into one particular club in his chair by the doormen. "Cleopatra couldn’t have made a better entrance!"

What with his clubbing and a number of other leisure activities he has a more active social life than most people. " I need sponsorship for my parachute jump. I do a lot of charity work spinal injuries, waving a bucket around. They took me skiing so I like to put something back."

He has abseiled down buildings, attends murder mystery parties and a bike club. "It’s nearly five years since I’ve been in the chair. I’m lucky. I probably get more sex than some normal blokes. The doors that have opened up for me, the changes that I have made for myself." Sometimes he thinks about a more long-term commitment but it would be hard to sacrifice the freedom he has at present.

"Jealousy is the biggest killer in the scene. Which is another reason I prefer to be me, not a part of a couple. But I’m ready to share. As long as they don’t stop me doing things. Commitment is where you’re doing everything together. Your best interests are in the other person. Whereas sharing, you’re into you, you indulge the other person. When I was married you had to consider the other person first. The English attitude is you’re seen together and then you’re a couple. I come from New Zealand where it’s more free and easy."

Although some people who have spent a lot of time in hospitals develop medical fetishes Kiwi is not of their number. He doesn’t describe himself as a fetishist although he fits in very well with the scene. "I like being places I can watch without being told not to be crude." He wants to challenge the stereotype that physically challenged people aren’t interested on sex.

"They are the most sexually explicit people going. Talking about it is a big buzz. Get in a room full of people with wheelchairs and you will never hear such filth!

I have wheels stuck to my arse after what I can honestly say was one of the best things that happened to me. I’m talking about a bike accident; a very stupid one and, I guess, one that was my fault initially: I was being towed on my bike by a car, fell off and landed back first on the curb, resulting in a broken back. This was five years ago. So where do I go. What do I do? Fuck it. Just get on with it day by day.

Three years later in hospital I bump into this pervert in a chair. He told me about the fetishist scene."

If you do see Kiwi in a club it is certainly advisable to watch were you’re going. " People don’t see you in a chair. They will walk straight onto you. I’m thirteen stone with the chair. I’ll run over their toes. They won’t do it again! Sometimes they apologise to me and I caused it to happen!"

Bob Flanagan, the American performance artist and `supermasochist` suffered from Cystic Fibrosis and used the power of sex to alleviate what was an extremely difficult life.

"Get in a room full of people with wheelchairs and you will never hear such filth! I have wheels stuck to my arse after what I can honestly say was one of the best things that happened to me.

He eventually survived for decades longer than he was expected to by sending his sex life into overdrive. He explored the extremes of SM, piercing, body modification and public role-play years before it was acceptable. In the process he almost certainly experienced a fuller life than many people who have been not so challenged.

Like Kiwi, Bob Flanagan’s strength and resilience is a testament to the human spirit and the lengths people will go to triumph over adversity. Which doesn’t always mean being a nice guy, like the two aforementioned individuals. Richard 111 was another strong man who decided that disability wasn’t going to get in the way of getting what he wanted. William Shakespeare gave him a speech in which he delineated the options he would pursue if fate deprived him of the power he craved. "I’ll make my heaven in a lady’s lap."

Kiwi has found that heaven can be in a lady’s lap, or perching her on his own lap, or satisfying them with his tongue or ever active fingers. " If someone offered me the choice to walk or not I would seriously have to think about it. I’ve done a lot more in the last five years than I did in the thirty years before it. I’m enjoying myself so much I fell guilty sometimes."

This Article was submitted and written by Mark Ramsden

He has become something of a celebrity on the fetish scene, appearing in
three adult films and talking about his experience to anyone who will
listen.

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